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God Help Me Balance My Life! Part I

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Day 1 of 5: Balance is not child’s play (1 Corinthians 13:11)

God knows we all have had to deal with people and problems from our past.  How many times have you tried to put the past behind you or close the door on your history but it keeps popping back up?

When the past keeps showing up — in our head or in our life, God is saying, “The class is not over.”  Yes, we can have it together in one area and be struggling in another at the same time. The truth is, we all are. Duality is our reality — and when the enemy attacks, he’s not attacking the spirit, he’s attacking our humanity — our truth, our weakness, the classes that we have not passed.

If you don’t know somebody who is healthy and hurting, saved and suffering, blessed and bleeding, you don’t know anybody. Saved does not mean solved, we’re a work in progress. A big part of creating balance in life is working on what makes us crazy or what drives us crazy (Romans 12:2).  The bible gives us a prophetic and life changing principle for growing past the past.

Read and see if you catch the revelation: “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me” (1 Corinthians 13:11).  Did you catch it?  Listen to part b: “When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.”  

In other words, “I put the ways of childhood behind me — when (after) I became a man.”  We cannot fix a history hurt, or pass our history class until after we grow up.  We would never expect a 10 year old to resolve a grownup problem.  Did you know that most of us don’t emotionally mature past the scene of our unresolved emotional crime or trauma? No matter how many years pass.

Not until we recognize the hold that the past has on us, the lie that it keeps telling us, and the damage that it keeps doing to us, are we in a position to put it away.  A part of the reason why we stay stuck is that we mentally cannot move beyond our emotional truth.  Have you thought about why they make you so mad or why your triggers set you off? Why the thought of them still hurts — even though years have passed — and it was not meant to last?  Or, why we can be full grown and still tell our story looking backwards — “What happened to us as a child?”

You cannot get past what mama or daddy did if, emotionally, you’re still the little girl or little boy that mama (or daddy) hurt.  You cannot overcome the hurt from what they did, from them leaving you, from them mistreating you if emotionally, you’re still at the scene of the crime.  We don’t grow past the hurt simply because we forgive someone or we get older, we grow when we forgive ourselves for allowing the hurt to become us, to become our truth, to become our potential, to become our story.

Only the truth will set us free from the bondage of our history, and grow us up so that we can treat our condition — put away childish things. By childish I mean part a of our scripture: “When I was a child (emotionally), I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child.” Trying to balance life without growing up in our truth, is like sending a child in to do an adults job. Love didn’t leave you, love is kind — Love removed them so that the right love could find you.  They aren’t the reason, your emotional volcano is waiting to be triggered. All men/women aren’t dogs, all dogs are picked by bad, broken, lonely pickers. They hurt you because swine don’t appreciate pearls. They weren’t a better mother or father to you because their mother or father neglected and abused them — hurt people hurt people.  You’re the curse breaker not the history teller.

The key to growing up or knowing where we need to grow, is examining our truth: “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves…” (2 Corinthians 13:5).  Examine your feelings, thoughts and behavior.  Do they deny God’s promise, do they rob you of power, do they torment you, do they set you off or keep you justifying going off, do they depress you, do they keep you telling your story in reverse, do they cancel your potential?  If they do, it’s a lie!  Listening to ourselves with the intent to hear, is the only way to know what lie our emotions are listening to and, what the enemy is using to kill, steal and destroy our balance.

Balancing is not easy, it takes work, it takes growing, and it takes truth.  The bible talks about putting false weights on a scale — “The LORD detests dishonest scales, but accurate weights find favor with him” (Proverbs 11:1); we cannot balance our life if the truth we use is false.  Trust God and listen to your thoughts, feelings and behavior — balance will start to show up when our truth starts to grow up. Your destiny is too important to live in the past.

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Pastor Patrick





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